“Love is love” is resonating with many of the contemporary moral climate. The relativity of even such a sacred emotion such as love is hijacked and bent to mean whatever men and women desire it to mean. But because of this, it is necessary to take a step back and examine what the Word of God defines is love. For only an objective standard can give us a clear idea what love should be and should look like.
What is this objective standard? Love… with the lens of holiness.
In order for something to show itself to be objective it needs to affirm a perspective that can survive scrutiny. If something cannot be debated about, or critiqued it is seen that it is not permitted to be proven true or at least contemplated to be a fact. And this critique is verified by placing it against a perfect measure of what is actually true.
Love is such an idea. Love needs to be placed next to the “meter-stick” to show if all love is truly love.
Moral relativism affects a innumerable amount of things once held obvious and sacred. Due to this we must go back to the source of what is love.
1 John 4:7-21 states certain aspects of what love is…
Manifested or placed as a perfect example by, the act of God the Father sending his son so that we may live in him by Christs’ act of being our propitiation.
- With this example, we must love others in this sacrificial love.
- Love is not based on just emotion but on truth.
This is what is seen as holy love.
Now to contextualize and bring to the forefront of what is seen in the perversities of what love is seen to be today, holy love is loving how God designed love to be esteemed and felt. To love another is not to seek benefits for oneself but to give oneself for the betterment of others. To say, “‘he or she” makes me feel this way’ and that’s why I know its right”, then we have seen that this is not love for it is self-seeking.
To love someone with either a eros, philia, agape, storge or any other kind for that matter, what is seen is that we as believers must maintain that love is love only if and when it contains truth, service, and passion… all as God sees proper.
That’s the kicker, seeing love as God sees it. Seeing love as relationship that each seeks the others betterment and acted out as the way Christ loved his Church to give himself to his bride wholeheartedly with no limits or conditions to serve and love her (Ephesians 5:25-27). Seen and acted out as the Father giving his most beloved possession, his Son, for sinful humanity (1 John 4:7-21). Seen and acted out in the work of sanctification, dealing with our sinfulness, as it is done by the work of the Spirit of God (Romans 8:26-28).
That is a peak of what loving in holiness is.